Families Are Forever

One day when I was praying asking God to show me what I was up against, what all families are up against he gave me a clear as day vision. In this vision I saw Satan and all his evil little minions sitting at a table with a deck of cards in their hand. On the table was a picture of my family.  The Lord showed me in that moment the enemy betting on it failing. Betting on yours failing.

Satan does not want us to be happy, he does not want a strong family unit, and he will do everything In his power to make yours fail. I can speak on this most, because I watched it happen to my very own family. The day I became one flesh, my Husband’s wife, his rib. Satan got to work. It was over time, but I now see how he got in. The part I played. The lord humbled me to my part. 

I’ve learned that it takes two for a marriage to fail, but only one to truly end it. I played my part, I recognize where I let Satan in my heart. My heart hardened, my patience disappeared, and my love for Jesus was no longer my priority. I fell away and I was so checked out. It was through unhealed childhood trauma, resentment, argues that truly didn’t matter, piles of laundry, bills that continued to stack up, and the countless hospital stays that drew us further and further apart. It was in choosing to listen to Satan and shut out God where I lost my way. I could sit here and write on this topic until I passed away right here in this computer chair. When God showed me what I was up against, I then knew what to pray against… and how to strategically pray against it. The enemy sits there at that table betting on my family failing. My focus isn’t on what Satan think he took. It’s focused on what Gods promises are and what is coming. What God has shown me and how I can do my part and honor him. Oh I wish I had the temple then. God was calling out to me, I was just so deceived and refused to hear.

It is never God’s plan for divorce, and I know those who get their “confirmation,” to do so are truly going against God’s word. You show me in scripture where God says, “When it doesn’t work out, just throw it away.” “When times are tough, just give up.” “When your cup isn’t being filled, go find someone else to fill it.” We do not serve the God of divorce. We serve the God of reconciliation. Don’t believe me? Feeling uncomfortable? That’s Jesus speaking to you reminding you to read our Father’s word on it. If you’re thinking of divorce that goes completely against God’s word.

5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh

6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Matthew 19:8

8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

He said right here it was the hardness of your hearts that caused you to put your wives away.. This is never what he wanted, nor what he will ever want.
The Church came out with a great word on divorce, and I love this part the most
“If, instead of resorting to divorce, each individual will seek the comfort and well-being of his or her spouse, couples will grow in love and unity. The gospel of Jesus Christ—including repentance, forgiveness, integrity, and love—provides the remedy for conflict in marriage.

If you are thinking of divorce, don’t do it. Just separate and draw close to God. Forgive. Repent. Believe in the power of the Atonement. It’s real, and so beautiful. Just separate for a while, but don't divorce. My goodness especially if you have children. Please hear me, you will hurt them in ways I can't put into words. Their sense of worth/value in themselves is destroyed. Little girls look for love in the wrong places. You entered a covenant, you found each other for a reason do not forget this. The enemy is so good at deceiving you and having you so focused on the wrong in your spouse and where they are failing. No one Is perfect, your spouse will fail you and sin against you. Pour into them more. Trust in your Heavenly Father. Lead by example and do not involve anyone in. It should only be you three, always. The enemy will use EVERYTHING especially after the divorce process starts. Family members in your ear, wrong council, porn, attorneys and paralegals stroking your ego,  their mistakes will continuously be whispered in your ear from the enemy.

Ladies did you know scripture tells us as wives we have authorities over our Husbands because we were anointed to be their wives. You were anointed to intercede for him. You're anointed to cover him and pick him up when he needs to be lifted. You are anointed to GO To WAR FOR HIM. As His Wife you have the authority given to you by our savior Jesus Christ to cast out the enemy , and pray against any demonic force, word curse, spirit,. Anything that comes against your union because you are ONE flesh. So you have the authority to do so. Speak life into your Husband, and be his safe place. The Lord has showed me this the best thing we can do for our husbands. Regardless of naysayers and those who word curse your union, love that man through everything. Go to war for him, don't go to war with him. Go to spiritual battle for him. 

The things we struggle with all stem from childhood, so whatever your spouse struggles with, you have to help them become aware of that. Help your spouse get to the root of their issues. Your obedience to God and healing your partner, will in return help them heal and lead to your spouses breakthrough. This is a ripple effect as well. What you heal and grow in marriage will be passed down to your children. They will see two parents fighting through the enemies plans and breaking down each one. Take your spouse back to God. If they upset you, pray for them. If they sin against you, pray for them. If they disrespect you, pray for them. Don't word curse your spouse to anyone, it is shameful and the Lord does not honor this. You chose that person, for better and worse, through sickness and health until death you part. If you are still breathing and alive, then stand by the promises and vows you made before God and your family and friends. The covenant you entered. That is what matters, and this is what God honors. Like his word says in Isaiah 14:27 All the forces of darkness cannot stop that God has ordained.

I went to the temple on the 18th (my five year wedding anniversary) feeling pretty heavy, but as I was sitting there Heavenly Father showed me my future. I had a clear as day vision/dream. I was sitting there on the couch in the cellestial room and I look down and my belly is massive I must have been eight months pregnant. My husband’s hand reached over and rubbed me. It felt so real. That is my future. That is what is promised to me. As I sat there with tears in my eyes feeling his hand against my belly I felt my daughter kick. I felt her spirit so strongly. I knew it was a girl. I then gave birth to her and she had to fight her way into this world. I almost lost her, but God gave me the tools. I was looking around for someone to help, I was panicked, and I felt that still soft voice say, “I’m here.” Not sure why that part of my dream happened, well nightmare really, but it reminded me disaster can happen, but he is always right there. My daughter came through and was fine. She let out the sweetest cry and I then snuggled and looked into her sweet honey brown eyes. I saw her so clearly. She was from God, she was so loved, she was there because I fought for her. 

When I think of my future I no longer fear it. I get so excited. I am being molded into the greatest Wife and Mother right now. My time is soon, I feel it. I trust in my Heavenly Father. Getting a little off topic here ahah sorry I get so excited thinking about it. Anyways I will end it with this, Families are forever. The blessing of the temple is truly everything to me. Being an endowed member has changed my life. I’m pretty sure I’ve been to the temple almost ten times now ahah I can’t get enough. I promise that increased time in the temple will bless your life in ways nothing else can.

As we enter through the doors of the temple, we leave behind us the distractions and confusion of the world. Inside this sacred sanctuary, we find beauty and order. There is rest for our souls and a respite from the cares of our lives.As we attend the temple, there can come to us a dimension of spirituality and a feeling of peace which will transcend any other feeling which could come into the human heart. We will grasp the true meaning of the words of the Savior when He said: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. … Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” The temple is truly heaven on earth. It is the greatest blessing to have it in my life. I encourage all to push towards that. So much peace will find and overcome you. 

I know the promises God has for me are truly far greater than I can even imagine. I know that vision of me sitting on the couch in the cellestial room with the biggest belly and my husband’s hand rubbing me, will come true. I know the little girl I saw in the temple with the honey brown eyes is my daughter and her little spirit is just waiting to enter my womb. Heavenly Father continues to show me my future and teaches me how to prepare for it and I owe it all to him. To finish this, families are forever, the temple is truly the greatest place on earth and I can truly testify of the blessings that will pour into your life with continued attendance. Do your part and know that we all fail, no one is perfect.

Marriage is greatest gift of sanctification. How would you ever truly learn unconditional love if you met someone who met all of your conditions? How would ever learn mercy, patience, long-suffering, true heart felt compassion, understanding.. if you were married to someone who never failed you? Who was never difficult with you? Who never challenged you? Who never sinned against you? Who is never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace, to pour favor onto someone who did not deserve it, if you were married to someone who deserved all good things?

It is through our marriages you both become conformed to the true image of Christ. Where you learn unconditional love. God says find a spouse who you can go to war with. Someone you can take down the enemy with. So to my husband, wherever you are, whoever you are. Just know I have been battling with the enemy this entire time, but I am thankful for it. I know how to fight for us, I know how to fight for you. Our forever is worth all the pain and trials I am facing right now.